I read this from Homefrontier
"Child-development experts, however, consider these sterile tools (flash cards, tv , computer games) inferior to more social and emotional activities such as talking with or reading to children. These specialists agree that the only thing shown to optimize children’s intellectual potential is a secure, trusting relationship with their parents. Time spent cuddling, gazing and playing establishes a bond of security, trust and respect on which the entire child-development pyramid is based. “We have given social and emotional development a back seat,” says UCLA’s Tyler, “and that’s doing a great disservice to kids and to our society.”
"Asked in a recent study what skills children need in order to be prepared for school, parents of kindergartners routinely cited definable achievements such as knowing numbers, letters, colors and shapes. Teachers, however, disagree. Far more important, they say, are social skills, such as sharing, interacting with others and following instructions. Kids who come to school with a mastery of these less showy abilities stand a better chance of knocking off not only reading and writing when they are eventually presented but everything else that comes along as well. “Intelligence is based on emotional adequacy,” says child-development expert T. Berry Brazelton. “The concept of emotional intelligence is at the base of all this.”"
I do feel slightly pressured to get Eliza in some pre-school before she turns 3, say like in the next half of the year. My sil said that since she likes to learn, why am i not putting her in pre-school. Since there's no harm having her home, where she interacts with family, i think it's fine that she's not in school yet. I guess i can save her schooling money for now :)
Though i do think that learning colours, shapes, alphabets is so part of our everyday life that you don't quite need formal lessons to learn them! It's everywhere! so we talk about them day in day out, some weeks we love alphabets, we learn counting from counting birds we see or the steps we climb. These few days it has been about tracing the alphabets with fingers. It's kinda fun, and the books we read reinforces all these.
Anyway, it's comforting to know that it's ok to not hurry all the schooling and the learning. I gave up flashcards sometime back cos i realized that if we learn phonics to learn to read, then we don't need flashcards! argh! gosh what was i thinking!
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Waiting
I haven't been in writing of moods much lately...I've lapsed into laziness or the writing bug has not been biting much.
I feel like we're in a waiting mode. Waiting for our future to unravel itself. Ww's waiting for an answer from the uni, then I'm waiting to see whether i need to make mega plans for the short-term or plans for the mid-term.
Then we're waiting for another baby, this we're not sure whether he/she will come. After my ectopic, it seemed like it wasn't that easy as before to conceive. One less fallopian tube makes such a difference or is my body still going through recuperation? It's 1 1/2yrs since it happened. I think it is more that i didn't want the age gap between Eliza and no.2 to be too wide for some strange reason that they won't be close if the age gap is wide. (you can't compare me & my sis with our 10yrs apart, i don't wanna wait 10yrs to have another baby!). Sometimes i feel like i wanna tell God, that if i can't have 3 or more, then 2 is still better than 1.
God sheds some light on His timing, that i needed to settle my periodontal problem before it is safe enough to conceive. My next appointment is in June and it has been postponed cos i was just too busy at work, or that the appointments are fully booked this & next week. Periodontal disease has implications on pregnancy that causes in low-birth weight babies / pre-term babies. So it'll be another 1-2months before it is 'safe' to try.
So in my impatience, God help me to have a patience, to see that there is a time for everything. This is the point where i say, God you're in control, not me.
I feel like we're in a waiting mode. Waiting for our future to unravel itself. Ww's waiting for an answer from the uni, then I'm waiting to see whether i need to make mega plans for the short-term or plans for the mid-term.
Then we're waiting for another baby, this we're not sure whether he/she will come. After my ectopic, it seemed like it wasn't that easy as before to conceive. One less fallopian tube makes such a difference or is my body still going through recuperation? It's 1 1/2yrs since it happened. I think it is more that i didn't want the age gap between Eliza and no.2 to be too wide for some strange reason that they won't be close if the age gap is wide. (you can't compare me & my sis with our 10yrs apart, i don't wanna wait 10yrs to have another baby!). Sometimes i feel like i wanna tell God, that if i can't have 3 or more, then 2 is still better than 1.
God sheds some light on His timing, that i needed to settle my periodontal problem before it is safe enough to conceive. My next appointment is in June and it has been postponed cos i was just too busy at work, or that the appointments are fully booked this & next week. Periodontal disease has implications on pregnancy that causes in low-birth weight babies / pre-term babies. So it'll be another 1-2months before it is 'safe' to try.
So in my impatience, God help me to have a patience, to see that there is a time for everything. This is the point where i say, God you're in control, not me.