The right guy

Is it hard to find the right guy (or girl)? No one will ever say it's easy. It's that right mix of timing, personality and later effort and lots of love. and for Christians...the same faith. shoeeee commented recently that too many ppl and even leaders have moved to r/s with non-christians.

yeah...true. hard to find a good christian guy or girl around? probably.

then again hardly anyone is good with their waiting...or more like waiting on God (esp the thought that the right guy will not come by till you're probably 60 yrs old is daunting). i'm in no position to say much about that waiting game because Ww & I met early...and married early (according to Singapore standards) and it's kinda fun when u tell ppl you're married and they will like "what! but you're so young!".

seems like the 'i like you & you like me' stage is very hot during our teenage years and once after that it seems to die down..either with ppl being attached already or just no one left. of cos sparks can fly in the most unexpected places...so that's the fun part about waiting...it's when you don't keep thinking about the waiting and find your delight in God in other places, the unexpected may come by.

christian with non-christian couples...nothing new. really. it depends on whether you're ok with someone who won't share the same values and faith as you...it's the stuff like how a family should be, how we should treat each other, how we see life. it does reflect the depth of one's faith. and even if the non-christian converts...it does really take a while for the values to be there, unless it is there in the first place. and if he/she converts is it because really of God or because of the r/s? there's so much details & itsy bitsy things that i can't list out. even so, christian r/s aren't all that perfect either, that's why God doesn't want us to start on a more difficult situation...but i guess for many it's easier to see the present need (the need for a human life partner) than the future consequences.

of cos i do hope that those who are searching for a partner to find a comptible one as soon as they need it, save all that desiring and lost hopes and impatience. sometimes Ww will try to matchmake ppl but so far not successful..haa. and i wanted to matchmake a friend with a very eligible bachelor i know but whell...not so easy. haa. surely God is that perfect matchmaker, knowing our timings and our needs...then again not letting us have things too easy, so that we'll grow in beauty and godliness before the right guy/gal comes by.

for us who have our r/s to grow, there are many other challenges ahead, and surely a different one from those who are single. for Ww and me who've taken the vow to be there for each other for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health, to love and to cherish till death do us part...we know and don't know what God will put in our paths to challenge us in our life, but we will live our purpose God has given us with lots of joy together, knowing also that our marraige sometimes reveals to us a glimpse of heaven.